Self Test

If you can answer yes to any of the questions below, click in the box next to it to create a check mark.

Physical Abuse

Has your partner:
    Pushed or shoved you?
    Held you to keep you from leaving?
    Slapped or bit you?
    Kicked or choked you?
    Hit or punched you?
    Thrown objects at you?
    Locked you out of the house?
    Abandoned you in a dangerous place?
    Refused to help you when you were sick, injured, or pregnant?
    Forced you off the road or kept you from driving?
    Tried to hit you with the car?
    Raped you?
    Threatened or hurt you with a weapon?

Sexual Abuse

Has your partner:
    Told anti-woman jokes or made demeaning remarks toward women?
    Treated women as sex objects?
    Been jealously angry, assuming you would have sex with any available man?
    Insisted you dress in a more sexual/less sexual way than you wanted?
    Minimized the importance of your feelings about sex?
    Criticized you sexually?
    Insisted on unwanted or uncomfortable touching?
    Withheld sex and/or affection?
    Called you sexual names like "whore" or "frigid"?
    Forced you to strip when you didn't want to?
    Publicly showed sexual interest in other women?
    Had affairs with other women after agreeing to monogamy?
    Demanding monogamy from you, while insisting on freedom for self?
    Forced sex with him or others or forced you to watch others?
    Demanded sex without regard to whether your children were around or not?
    Forced particular unwanted sexual acts?
    Forced sex after beating?
    Forced sex when you were sick or it was a danger to your health?
    Forced sex for the purpose of hurting you with objects or weapons?
    Committed sadistic sexual acts?

Emotional Abuse

Has your partner:
    Ignored your feelings?
    Ridiculed or insulted women as a group?
    Ridiculed or insulted your most valued beliefs? (i.e. religion, heritage, or class)
    Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment?
    Continually criticized you, called you names, shouted?
    Insulted or drove away your friends or family?
    Humiliated you in private or public?
    Refused to socialize with you?
    Kept you from working, controlled your money?
    Made all decisions?
    Refused to work or share money?
    Took car keys or money away?
    Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave?
    Threatened to hurt you or your family?
    Threatened to hurt himself?
    Punished or deprived the children when your partner was angry with you?
    Threatened to kidnap the children?
    Abused pets to hurt you?
    Told you about his affairs?
    Harassed you with affairs your partner imagined you were having?
    Manipulated you with lies and contradictions?

If you checked one box on this page, you may have an abusive partner. If you feel that you are a victim of domestic violence or just need someone to talk to, please call our free confidential hotline at 425-25-ABUSE. We do accept collect calls.